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Fail. Fail fail fail. The PLAN was to write at least one blog post a week. I literally can’t remember when I wrote my last one but I know it’s been months! (Don’t feel like looking it up ha!)

The last post I wrote was BEFORE our big Disney trip and BEFORE our big move to our tiny house!

So stay tuned because the new PLAN is to write a post about whether or not you should

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Elena awkwardly smiling with Princess Anna… instead of napping.

take babies/toddlers on a Disney vacation, and to write a post about how to move when you have little kids – NOT EASY. 

Today, however, I want to catch you up to what’s been taking my attention away from this blog. And I mean besides the usual chaos that is my life of momming two tyrannic toddlers.


I am absolutely sure every mom without a full-time nanny can relate to this: I have been crawling out of my own skin due to the groundhog day that my life has become!

Feed the kids, clean the kitchen, pick up toys, do the laundry, vacuum dog hair, wipe some butts, feed the kids, clean the kitchen, etc. etc. etc. It just goes on forever.

By the time the kids go to bed, I am done. So done. I have NOTHING left and my brain is turning to mush.


A few months ago, I discovered something I didn’t know about. I’ve never even considered running my own business, really, because I never knew anything about business.

I truly thought that I was the 9-5 job type of person (even though I hate that with a passion) and that other people are business people, but not me. Where would I even start? I have no product, no money to invest in employees or marketing or anything!

I mean I did try a couple Direct Marketing companies, Jamberry and Norwex, but I didn’t take them seriously enough as a BUSINESS to be successful.

So when I found out that you can start an online store absolutely free (with a free trial period), add products to it absolutely free and use the DROP SHIP business model for FREE, I was incredibly intrigued!


For anyone that doesn’t know, “Drop Shipping” is a business model where you, the seller, markets a product that you can find at a low price, sell it to others at a higher price. When they order from you, you go and order the product at the lower price using THE CUSTOMER’S address, and it is sent directly to them. You keep the difference in price as profit.


An actual picture of me working from home. I swear that’s totally me. I totes wear jewelry to work from home. And I brush my hair. I swear. 

SERIOUSLY? You never have to buy inventory, deal with shipping, any of that stuff!

(If anyone wants more info on Drop Shopping, please drop a comment or send me a message! I would be more than happy to create a detailed post!)

After watching some YouTube videos and listening to podcasts, I decided to just DO it! Sometimes you just have to take ACTION and learn as you go.

I am so glad I did that. I actually created my first store intending to sell these cute Luggage Covers. But as I was building the store and watching more videos on YouTube, I got inspired to change niches.

I ended up building a store for Dog Lover’s. I had the store for a couple months, made a few sales and then SOLD the store for a teeny tiny profit!! I’ll have to calculate it but I think overall I profited like $100.

Which $100 is nothing except that its HUGE because I went into this for FUN, knowing hardly anything and didn’t LOSE money on my first online business!! WIN WIN WIN!!

(Seriously I can go into detail in another post if anyone’s interested.)

I am working on my next store now but the POINT of all of this is to say that my brain doesn’t feel so mushy anymore! I found something that is addicting and fun and gives me the exact amount of challenge that I need.

It is a creative outlet for me that I desperately need. And hey if I make money at it, BONUS!!


Moms, especially stay-at-home moms, life can become so mundane. Routine. And we can so easily feel like a maid, a slave even. And then we can become a little bitter.

I get it. I’ve been there. Sometimes I still go there.

But for the sake of our sanity and our families, we have to get creative and think about pexels-photo-355952what we CAN do to use our brains a bit to feel like we’re still human beings.

What I’m doing won’t be right for everyone, as everyone has different abilities, talents and interests. (But it is super fun and totally worth trying!)

There are so many resources to get inspired though as to something you CAN do from home, even with tiny humans running around and running your life.


One podcast that I LOVE is https://www.smartpassiveincome.com/podcasts/ by Pat Flynn. So much fun to listen to and so inspiring!

Pat Flynn interviews people and gets them to tell DETAILED info on how they started their businesses. Not only is this podcast entertaining to keep your interest, but it is JAM PACKED full of great information!


So pick one, turn it on, and get to folding laundry or doing the dishes. Hand your kids a kindle or iPad if you need to for a bit to keep them quiet. Put on a movie for them.

Some screen time is WORTH IT for you to reduce stress and keep your sanity. Your well-being is MORE IMPORTANT than stressing out over your kids getting some screen time. I am very serious about this. Keep things in perspective.


My goofballs gettin’ some screentime to save momma’s sanity!


Trust me, I get it. I don’t have time for it either… but somehow I’m doing it. Somehow I wrote this blog.

Getting inspired and excited about something actually gives me ENERGY. Not only the energy to work on my online store projects, but it even spills into the rest of my life.

I now have more motivation and energy to get the cleaning done quicker, and to prioritize my tasks a little better.

But for now, don’t even worry about the time doing something like this would take. Until you are inspired with your own ideas, that is completely irrelevant!

For now, just get inspired. Listen to some podcasts while you’re driving or doing house chores. Read some blog posts on starting your own business or whatever interests you.

And know this – you can turn almost ANY passion into a business. You don’t have to sell a physical product. Please please message me if you need help figuring out what you could do. I would seriously love nothing more than to give you some ideas and help you figure out your gifts!!

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Not another “Just Do It” message!

From now on I will choose to “fail forward”. Because I am sick of failing and quitting, which is what I normally do! I get these grand ideas in my head – ok it’s Sunday – tomorrow starts my diet and I’m going to lose 25lbs in 3 weeks! By Friday my entire house will be cleaned and every piece of laundry washed and put away, and my 3 year old will be potty trained and will have mastered 3 different languages. I GOT this! It will just take a little will-power!!

(A/F LINK) Some days this is ALL I can handle!!

Reality: It’s friday and I’m sitting on the couch eating a donut while I’m covered in cereal that’s been dumped on me looking at my living room covered in dirty clothes covered in dog hair being thrown around by 2 toddlers STILL in diapers and who haven’t been bathed in 4 days. Completely defeated. Feeling like the world’s biggest failure. I see moms rocking at life every day on Facebook – how is it possible that I’m THIS bad at it?

NO more of that! No more unrealistic goals and expectations for myself that just end up leaving me feeling like total crap! And when I do fail, no more worrying about it! So what? Life is crazy right now! Things will NEVER be perfect!! Tomorrow is always a new day! Monday always starts a new week!

I’m not trying to be falsely positive. I won’t always have that optimistic attitude – but the point is we need to give ourselves a little more grace. And start the next day with intentions of having a better attitude, a positive mindset and try again. Sometimes we are just physically and mentally and emotionally exhausted and we just need to have a bad day! Or sometimes we have a crazy week and end up dropping the ball in multiple areas. Instead of quitting, we need to accept that we had a bad week, and give ourselves small realistic goals of how we can do a little better next week.

In my last post I recommended the book THE ONE THING. I want to expand on what I talked about because it is such an important concept. Let’s get a little deeper into it. The idea is to figure out what the ONE thing is that you can accomplish that will make everything else easier. You might have different answers for this for different areas of your life. But when it comes to our home-life, think about either the one project you can accomplish or the one thing you can get up every morning and check off your list to make everything else easier.

These grand ideas and massive goals we set for ourselves to have perfect lives just add more stress when we don’t accomplish them. Having kids, especially young toddlers or babies, makes EVERYTHING so much harder. As a parent, not only do you have all of the responsibilities to keep up with, but you really need to have good mental health and a decent amount of rest in order to raise your kids in a positive and healthy environment. When we were young and single and free, we could pull all-nighters and get crap done

race spilled the breadthat needed it. We could wait until the last minute to finish a project, because we could dedicate focused time to it when we needed to. Now, we don’t have that luxury. It’s rare to get time where we can 100% focus on anything! Even now I am being interrupted by my chatty 3 year old every couple minutes as I write this. Let’s get to a point where we can accept this reality and move forward! Sometimes I feel judged – maybe it’s in my own head – but you know what? Not everyone gets it! People who don’t have kids often don’t get it! Some people whose kids are grown idealize the past in their memories and forget how hard it was! Some people actually had pretty easy/compliant/sleepy kids!! That’s not us!!


Which brings me to another point that I will expound on in another post – it is EXTREMELY important to connect with other moms with kids in similar stages as yours. There is no greater antidote to so much of motherhood stress than laughing about it with other mom friends who get it!!

So what is your ONE thing? I am tempted to choose many ONE things but that would defeat the purpose. I suggest to write a list of your ONE thing ideas and then analyze that list. So here’s my list:

Prepping a healthy breakfast daily
Prepping a healthy dinner daily
Working out regularly
Minimizing and Decluttering my Home

Eating a healthy breakfast will set me up for more energy the rest of the day to accomplish other tasks. Sometimes I don’t have energy in the morning to make a healthy breakfast so it would be helpful if I were to prep something the night before. Dinner is a huge one for me – if I don’t plan ahead, we almost always end up ordering takeout or pizza. Which means we order out like all the time – whoops! So much wasted money and unhealthy food. And the whole dinner thing is just a huge stressor for me. Then there’s working out – I believe that if I were to work out regularly I would feel more energized, more confident, and it’s a proven stress-reliever so all around a great thing to do to help me accomplish my other goals! And lastly, I believe that if I can get rid of my house’s clutter, have less stuff to maintain and clean, I will be more freed up to do other things during my day. Living in a clutter-free environment is so much less stressful.

So I have these 4 areas to choose from and it’s hard to choose! They are each extremely important but seriously you guys – choose ONE! We have to simplify! Master just one and then tackle another down the road. We are constantly being fed all these messages that if you do this one thing, your life will be changed. Eat clean and your life will be changed. Minimize and your life will be changed. Exercise every day and your life will be changed. But when your life is in total chaos and you know that you need to improve in ALL of those areas – it just gets too overwhelming to make changes! Start with just one. One simple goal that you know you can commit to accomplishing. Any progress is good progress. And when you’re making progress in your ONE THING category, you will be making progress towards making everything else in your life easier.

I would love to hear what your initial ONE THING list is? What are the things you would like to work at that you believe will make all other things easier? Comment with your list and when you’re ready, I’d love to hear which ONE you’ve chosen!

I Want To Be Wonder Woman!

JL_Wonder_WomanWonder Woman. Strong, beats the crap out of bad guys, gorgeous, flawless, and when she says something dumb men think its cute. I bet she feeds her kids 3 organic meals a day full of vegetables and they EAT IT ALL! Yes, she is awesome and I want to BE her!

Seriously, though, the movie was amazing. Get a sitter TONIGHT and go see it!!

So I think i figured out my problem. I really truly wanted to be Wonder Woman! Like, the mom-version! I have been so stressed out for years because I had too many goals and I wasn’t going to be happy until I met all of them!! For example, I wanted:

  1. A rockin’ bod.
  2. To eat healthy to have more energy.
  3. To organize my house so it’s ALWAYS clean.
  4. To finally get ahold of our laundry situation.
  5. To spend lots of time daily doing educational activities with my kids.
  6. To bring in a second income for my family.
  7. To write more.
  8. To do more photography.
  9. To do more videography.

I could probably go on and HOLY COW just looking at my own list… NO WONDER I’ve been so stressed!!! For the past 3 years I’ve spent 90% of each day just keeping my children alive!!! How the heck have I expected to perfect all 9 of those things??!!! Dear LORD help me. I may be Greek and as close to a Greek-Goddess as I look,  I’ll be honest with you that I was NOT sent from Zeus up above and given special powers!  

Goals are good. They are motivating and working on ways to improve your life is a GOOD thing. We just have to be careful that, especially as parents, we’re not ADDING stress to our lives with the goals we set! That doesn’t work.

So what I’ve learned is that if there are areas in your life that you want to improve, you need to choose simple goals that will be the most effective. Most likely, there are areas in your life that if you improve them, it will make every other area of your life easier.

I got this concept from the book The One Thing. I HIGHLY recommend reading this, if you have time to read. If not, try downloading the audiobook!! (links down below) The main point is to help you identify ONE thing you can do that will make everything else easier. It’s a business book but when I listened to the audiobook, I was not working and I’m telling you, it applies to EVERYONE. Let me give you an example from my life!

I know a lot of parents will relate to this – TOYS TOYS TOYS EVERYWHERE ALL THE TIME. What a pain. Our kids have so many toys and it seems their favorite thing to do is throw them all over the house and then start whining that they’re bored!! So finally I had enough! I took their toys and put them all away in a bin! I left just a few out so no matter what, the mess could be picked up in under a minute! That was a couple weeks ago and I can’t even tell you the amount of stress that has since dissipated since my living room is almost always clean now!! An unintended consequence of this is that all of the sudden I have found space to do my workouts! And because I’m not drowning in messiness, I feel like my mind is clear enough that I can take some time out of the day and actually do it!! It’s crazy. This one small act of simplifying has truly made such a difference and even made one of my other goals easier!! It’s a domino effect. Working out gives me confidence, and more energy, which helps me tackle my other goals as well.

I am telling you this is huge. Take a few minutes to think about what that one thing is for you! Set one small goal for yourself but make sure it’s one that will free you up and make setting more goals easier! I would love it if you left a comment (click “Leave a Comment” up above) and tell me what your One Thing is!

And if you’re interested in reading this book, check it out here:


Not Another Perfect Mom Blog

Ever try to explain what being a mom is like to someone who just doesn’t get it? Try this: Tell them being a mom is like having a creature about a quarter of the size of a regular human stepping in front of your feet every time you try to move – All. Day. Long. Because THAT’S LITERALLY HOW IT IS. It’s maddening! It’s also the most wonderful and amazing thing in the world. It doesn’t make any sense. But there you have it. That’s momlife.


Let me just make this one thing VERY clear. This is NOT another blog about a perfect mom who is going to teach you how to do your makeup while meal prepping three groumet meals a day for the week plus organic snacks while getting your 90 pushups, situps and squats in as you teach your perfect 3 year old how to do long division and fold laundry, all WITHOUT any screentime!! No. That’s just a bunch of crap. I mean, for realsies though if you can do that I love you and I wanna be you and I hate you.


No I am not perfect. Not in any way, shape or form. But I am learning little hacks here funny pic of elena and raceand there that are really making a difference in my day and I know I’m not the only one who’s TOTALLY stressing out with life stuff! Having young kids just makes EVERY. SINGLE. THING. harder. So much harder. So stick with me for tips on how to deal with your extreme picky eater, how to handle the insane amount of laundry, how to not murder your spouse when they walk in the door, and just how to enjoy life instead of live every second of it in stress! 


Currently, one of my major struggles is my messy home. It’s ridiculous. I can maybe get one room under control, but then the rest of the house just starts to vomit random products and crap I didn’t even know we had all over the floors and furniture and I just want to curl up in a closet and cry but who has time for that, my kids are STARVING and poopy and bored!!


So I am challenging myself to minimize! At least a little. I’m not at this point trying to become an all-out minimalist but I just love the concept. Less stuff, less maintenance, less stress, more time. So I will keep you updated on my progress! I will say this, though, I started awhile back in my kitchen and just the little bit of purging I did has already made a MASSIVE difference in my stress level whenever I’m in there.


What are areas of motherhood that are the most challenging to you? Please let me know in the comments below! I would looove to hear from you, learn from you and laugh with you about this crazy stage of life!!